A cruel statement, I know but it’s the truth.
No one owes you anything here.
You got to earn everything. Your dreams, successes, relationships would not fall into your lap. You need to work for them.
I would say that the only unconditional thing in this world is mother’s love. Except for your mother, everyone else will have certain expectations from you. And they are right to have them.
You need to work hard for your dreams.
You need to work hard to earn people’s love.
You need to show this world and the people in it that you deserve what you aim for.
Becoming entitled is the biggest roadblock to personal growth and development. When we become entitled we become a victim. There is no glory in that. There is no achievement in giving up your agency. You need to believe in yourself in order to become successful and when you play the victim game you lose control.
Here’s what Harry Browne, an American writer, and politician, wrote in a letter to his 9-year-old daughter on Christmas:
“I want to give you something that will stay with you for more than a few months or years. I want to give you a gift that might remind you of me every Christmas.
“If I could give you just one thing, I’d want it to be a simple truth that took me many years to learn. If you learn it now, it may enrich your life in hundreds of ways. And it may prevent you from facing many problems that have hurt people who have never learned it. The truth is simply this: No one owes you anything.
“You owe it to yourself to be the best person possible. Because if you are, others will want to be with you, want to provide you with the things you want in exchange for what you’re giving to them. Some people will choose not to be with you for reasons that have nothing to do with you. When that happens, look elsewhere for the relationships you want. Don’t make someone else’s problem your problem.
“Once you learn that you must earn the love and respect of others, you’ll never expect the impossible and you won’t be disappointed. Others don’t have to share their property with you, nor their feelings or thoughts. If they do, it’s because you’ve earned these things. And you have every reason to be proud of the love you receive, your friends’ respect, the property you’ve earned. But don’t ever take them for granted. If you do, you could lose them. They’re not yours by right; you must always earn them.“
Source: A Gift for My Daughter, James Clear newsletter
If you believe that you are entitled to nothing you will work to achieve that. You would believe that it was your fault if it’s not working. You would attempt to correct your mistakes and learn from them.
By doing that you will grow in every sphere of your life and regain control of your destiny.
I write daily here on my blog. There is no limit to the word count. I am not focusing on any topic here. I want to build a daily writing habit. This is Day 50 of the Daily Writing Challenge in 2022.